What Makes A Man?

The Anatomy Of The Penis

Well, what does make a man? Is it the fact that we have a certain type of genitals? Or is the definition of manhood more closely aligned with the way we think and behave?

And since few of us would deny that men and women are in fact rather different in the way they act, feel and possibly even the value systems they hold, is it meaningful to look at the superficial differences of the structure of the external genitalia and assign the character of a whole gender to an individual based on that phenotype? Of course, the answer is, no, it is not reasonable.

Video: structure of the penis

Even in the development of the external genitalia there are massive differences between individuals, and one's gender is a whole panoply of factors ranging from emotional to psychological to physical... let alone spiritual, too.

So the purpose of this website is to introduce the structure of the body as it would typically appear in a male - allowing for the fact that there are widespread individual differences. Of course, it is a given fact that most men regard the penis as the centre of their maleness: but that is only an external manifestation of the internal sense of being male, and a cultural association of the penis with masculinity (bigger = better = more masculine!)

If you ask a woman to ascribe values of maleness, the difference to those mentioned by men is striking.

Female characteristics are seen as: tolerance, sharing, politeness, caring, listening, sacrifice, equality, generosity, family, grace; male characteristics are perceived as: power, self-confidence, daring, humor, ambition, success, action, freedom, independence and discipline. But these bald statements do not touch upon the qualities that men and women live with, day to day.

Think of love, openness, care, compassion, concern. Think of being a good lover, a strong partner, emotionally supportive.

Aren't men supportive of women just as women are of men, but perhaps in a different way? And although men and women alike consider feminine values to be developing we may still be placing more value on traditionally feminine characteristics from a cultural point of view. And even though we attribute very similar values to men and women, nearly 90% of people are convinced that men and women are actually very different.

So in the anatomical discussion that follows, bear in mind that we are focusing very narrowly on sex and sexuality, rather than gender differences in emotions and behavior.

Think of this as a sexual primer, a way to increase you knowledge of what it takes to be a good lover. And in that context, remember that sexual dysfunction is not acceptable in a good relationship - or, rather, sexual problems are a barrier to a good sexual relationship.

So if you are a woman with any kind of sexual problem, check this out; if you have premature ejaculation try www.the-relationship-works.com for advice which may help you last longer in bed and satisfy your partner sexually.

Delayed Ejaculation

This condition is one which affects many men, and I offer the following website which may be helpful in overcoming the inability to ejaculate during sexual intercourse. You'll find more information on another page of this website for men who can't come during intercourse.

The Anatomy of the Male Genitals

The skin of the penis is hairless, thin, elastic and very sensitive, particularly so on the upper- and undersides. In uncircumcised men it fits loosely over the shaft and slips back and forth during sexual activity.

When it is pulled back it reveals the glans or tip of the penis, which is generally cone-shaped, at the base of which there is a ridge known as the corona. The glans is the most sensitive part of the phallus, richly endowed with nerve-endings, and it is highly responsive to stimulation during sexual foreplay.

At birth the glans of the penis is covered by a foreskin, which in some societies is routinely removed by circumcision. Some people believe that circumcision enhances sexual pleasure, but in fact there is no evidence that there is a difference in sensitivity between the circumcised and the uncircumcised penis.

The only possible disadvantage of non-circumcision might be that as the foreskin traps dirt, uncircumcised men should be particularly scrupulous about their genital hygiene. They should regularly push the foreskin back and wash the glans and corona with warm water.

After the penis, the testicles are the main focus of male anxiety and misplaced pride. The testicles are extremely vulnerable and sensitive, in fact too much so to be organs of pleasure. The author of The Sensuous Woman (1970) urges her readers to give their men a wonderful thrill by gently taking a testicle into the mouth like an egg.

This is a practice we would recommend only if you trust your partner, otherwise any thrill conferred by the novelty of the experience may be cancelled out by the reflex anxiety it induced.

The testicles are sex glands whose function is to manufacture sperm. They vary in size, but any exceptionally large one usually has more fluid. Testicle size is not related to the number of sperm produced. It is normal for one testicle to be a little smaller than the other, and it is also normal for one (usually the left) to hang lower than the other, two common factors that still cause anxiety.

Men are sometimes alarmed, too, to find that they appear to have only one testicle, when in fact what has happened is that one has retreated into the canal that leads to the abdomen.

This canal serves as a kind of refuge for the very vulnerable glands. They get drawn up toward it, for example, when a man wades into cold water, or when any kind of danger threatens, and also during sexual arousal.

A very small number of males have an undescended testicle, one that has not descended to the scrotum but remained in the abdominal canal. This condition can be corrected surgically, preferably at an early age.

The reason why the testicles are outside the body is that they need to be a little below body temperature in order to produce sperm efficiently. This is also why the sac that encloses them, the scrotum, is made of deeply wrinkled skin. When the temperature is too high, the wrinkles smooth out in order to lose heat, and if it gets too cold they close up. This is why the scrotum becomes tight and shriveled if one plunges into cold water.

When sperm cells have been manufactured in the testes they pass up two long narrow canals known as the vas deferens to the prostate gland, where the seminal fluid is produced.

Seminal fluid forms the greater part of the fluid ejaculated by the man during his orgasm in sexual intercourse, and its purpose is to preserve and nourish the sperm, and provide a fluid medium in which they can move. The prostate lies just behind the bladder, and ducts lead from both these points into the urethra, or urinary passage.

Although this passage is used for passing urine as well as semen, the two functions are never confused because a man cannot urinate when he has an erection. Actually, as many men, know, this is not entirely true. The reality is that a man cannot urinate when he is ejaculating, but it is quite possible to urinate with an erection.

In the forward part of the urethra there are some small glands known as Cowper's glands which secrete a thick slippery substance during sexual arousal. This substance has the dual purpose of counteracting the acidity of any residue of urine present in the urethra since this could be harmful to sperm, and at the same time providing a lubricant to facilitate sexual intercourse.

Many men who notice its appearance on the glans of the penis during sexual arousal mistake it for a premature seepage of semen.

Interestingly, this secretion occurs as a result of emotional or mental as opposed to mechanical sexual stimulation. It may not occur at all during an act of masturbation, but a man who is mentally aroused, may find that his Cowper's glands have been busily secreting even though his penis has only just begun to stiffen.

Certainly to sexually inexperienced men, these secretion can be something of an embarrassment, although the more sexually experienced man will regard them as just another exciting part of the whole sexual experience - certainly something to be savored and enjoyed, rather than embarrassed about. The ability to accept the secretions and natural actions of one's body in this way is a sign of a lack of shame and self-loathing.

One of the questions that I often come up against in my work as a counselor and therapist is "How can I get what I want?"

And the obvious answer to that is straightforward: start using the power of your mind, the power of your body, the power of your soul to cause the universe to manifest what it is that you want.

Yet very few people actually appear to have the ability to do this consistently, if at all. This raises the very interesting question of why, if manifestation using the Law of attraction is natural human ability, were not all doing it more consistently, more frequently, and more reliably.

The answer seems to be that most people don't like the effort involved in turning their attention to a particular objective, and working hard to manifest it is a reality in their lives.

Whenever I meet somebody who claims to want something my first question is always about the intensity of their desire for that outcome.

The question is fundamental to manifestation because to be honest, if you don't actually have an intense desire for something, is never going to manifest in your life.

Find out how you too can be one of the people who are successful at attracting what you want by going to this website and having a look at the techniques that are described there.

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